Is it possible to be alone

Find interesting things to do and put them on your calendar. Give yourself something to look forward to. After all, anticipation is half the fun. Plus, seeing it on your calendar might also help you follow through. Visit a nearby town and stay in a bed and breakfast. Attend a local festival or farmers market.

As you become more comfortable with the day-to-day aspects of being alone, you can start digging a bit deeper. Even a routine that works well can eventually morph into a rut, leaving you uninspired. Think about your day-to-day routine and immediate surroundings.

Freshen things up. Rearrange your furniture or paint a wall. Start a garden, clean and declutter, or find a new coffee shop. Life has its stressors , and bad things happen. But remember that time something bad happened and you figured out how to deal with it? Consider how you coped then and why that worked. Think about how you can use that same mindset to cope with events that are happening now.

This is also a good time to give yourself some credit. As you become more comfortable being alone, you might find yourself spending less time socializing. Arrange to visit with someone in your family, a friend, or go hang out with the team after work. What does forgiveness have to do with your happiness? A lot, as it turns out. Among other health benefits, the act of forgiveness may reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. Forgiveness can take a load off your mind. Mental health can affect physical health and vice versa.

Taking care of your physical health may help boost your overall happiness. Make eating a balanced diet , exercising regularly , and getting plenty of sleep part of what you do with your alone time.

Be sure to get an annual physical, and see your doctor to manage any preexisting health conditions. Where do you want to be in 5 years or in 10 years, both personally and professionally? What do you need to do to accomplish those goals? Writing this down can be helpful in guiding your decisions. Having plans for tomorrow might help you feel more hopeful and optimistic today.

Simply wanting to get better and spending time alone is a perfectly good reason to make an appointment. Here, in my university town, I feel so alone from time to time. Classmates hang out with each other, but no one asks me to come. I prefer having a nice talk really than dancing to lame songs with strangers.

So I feel kinda stuck. All I do is studying, going to lectures, come home and make dinner, relax and then go to bed. Day after day. I dunno, I just felt like letting it all out. I guess no one cares really. Thanks for reading though. I never think that I am alone. The power that created this wonderful world and which created me is always flowing in me as universal life force energy or in India we call it Pranashakthi while I breath in and out. The very feeling of loneliness comes because of not being connected with the universal power which is responsible for the creation of the universe and me.

How can you feel the presence of that power within yourself? Stop doing anything for 5 minutes. Sit relax, take a deep breath and release breath, observe your normal breathing. So long as you observe your breathing there will not be any thought because there can be only one thought at a time. As you practice this breathing awareness meditation and increase the frequency per day and also the duration from 5 minutes to maximum 15 minutes per session you will learn to be with yourself and when you are with yourself you are with your universal self.

Then you will learn to detach yourself from the physical world around you at your will and also attach yourself at your own will. You become an expert in attaching to the world for the sake of survival and experiencing the sensuous world and enjoying it in its all respects and when you feel like relaxing you know how to detach yourself and enjoy being with yourself and your higher self.

This is called living in Vairagya which means living without Raga [attachment] and without Dwesha [Aversion]. You will transcend from your likes and dislikes and start loving yourself and everything around you and in the universe as IT IS. More you learn to live doing nothing [not even having any thought] more you will enjoy life.

This is exactly what I needed…. Sorry…load of crap! How can anyone be happy alone? I for one will never be! Nobody to talk to, share things with, touch, kiss, love, sex, passion, romance, intimacy, do things with, complain to, help, support…nothing…absolutely nothing! Thanks for you opinion John. Let me point out that I am not saying you need to live a life in a box with no human contact whatsoever. My point is that even though most people crave some human connections there is still ways to live a fullfulling life without them.

You should strive to work on yourself and your issues. If a relationshhip is something you desire above all else, it will come in time. I totally understand you. Sure, there are things that I enjoy doing on my own, but the article states that one should find out what makes them happy. Kissing, hugging, sex, intimacy, being able to walk through life with a partner on their side, someone to accompany you through the good times and the bad times.

All of those things make me happy and are impossible to achive on my own or with friends and family. And yes at 29 and never had any relationship… i always remind myself that in everything i do. Self control is always the Key.

It feels good to accomplised many things. It was until i got pressured by my peers that i decided to a be little flirt. I never wanted that because i value my self that much.. Worst, He rejected me. But it seems everything in my life seems so vague. I even failed in my exam to include not being able to focus in my study. I hate myslef most of the time. Your article inspires me to write more article similar to this.

Thank you for sharing this post. While these are good points for those who are looking to accept false teachings, living alone is not the way mankind was intended to live. When Adam took note that every creature had a mate he felt alone. Did God give him tips to learn to be happy living alone? God created a partner. Self love or love of self is pride.

Pride is a sin. Pride is the sin that caused Lucifer to rebel and be cast from heaven. Love yourself all you want, but understand that alone is not what you were created to be and love of self is the reason this world is in such despair.

Btw, I too am alone and burdened daily with sadness and loneliness daily. I totally agree with point number 4, The exercise and having a healthy lifestyle point. In order to be happy having healthy habits is a must. I loved this topic. Make sure you leave a comment there. It is physically, mentally, emotionally impossible to be happy alone!

There are sooo many facets of life that are simply missing! Passion, romance, chemistry, emotionl intimacy, affection, just to name a few, can not be had alone…period. Single and Happy! Methinks he doth protest too loudly… No one is truly happy alone unless they choose to be and I would suggest that the majority of us do not choose to be.

We are human, we need companionship. Putting aside physical needs, which is a sadness in itself and not cured by joining a library or going to the gym, having no one with you to share your life, joy, fears and experiences with when you get home at the end of the day is awful. This just heightens my sense of unhappy singledom. Rule No. Hi Alison, I am in the same boat. It is ingrained in my mind that only companionship can make me happy.

I follow every sports, work out every day, i am golf fanatic and work hard on it. But still end of the day i want to talk to someone when i get home from work. All my friends have family, i keep on thinking why is it just me. I am sure there are lot of people like me. I guess time heals everything, i used to be worst but in 5 years things have gotten better. Please make sure to love yourself first so that you can find happiness to your inner-self.

Fill yourself of happiness and just like what you have read from the article. Always think that everything happened for a reason, we all knew that you lost in a fight and that was your first serious relationship that turned into failure. Why not to turn things round, you should think of yourself now. Happiness is a matter of choice. Some people who experience serious problems usually think that happiness is impossible in negative situations.

But actually, it is not. Hi, my name is Robinson and I am also a blogger. I write about happiness and other psychological topics. Recently I wrote about how to be happy every day. Maybe my article can add a little information for your readers. Thank you so much for allowing me to share my thoughts here.

More power! I think everything wrote was very logical. However, what about this? Just my opinion, it could bring your blog a little livelier. Being single also has so many disadvantages as well since wherever we go anywhere we really are all alone. Hi, Thanks for your great article. Actually, I think All these means is that instead of hiding from failure, insanely successful people anticipate and integrate failure into their lives in ways that transform it from an end into a means.

We all love a good secret. So start small, but start today. Wish you all the best. Hi, I am married have 2 kids and divorced, i am 42 years old, had relationship with a person age of 29 yrs. This is great article. Living alone is mentally very healthy. If we get a chance to live alone, be thankful and enjoy the peaceful life. I am from Nepal. Honestly speaking I have attempt suicide for twice. I was literally broke up and still passing through the same phrase.

I was always sacred of loosing people who was near by my heart. In fact i was scared of being alone. My parents are separated I have 2 sisters unmarried. You can never devote enough attention to coming to a clear answer. To create is one of the most important things you can do in your life.

To create among a sea of people or even just one person vying for your attention is one of the most difficult things in life. All excuses are gone. Your other option is to ignore that call to create and, instead, look for temporary comfort in things and people who will eventually leave you unfulfilled. Make use of your loneliness. It only needs to be present. Pursue these plans immediately. Perfect never comes, and the longer you wait, the harder it is to get started.

Maybe you want to travel the world and understand different cultures. Maybe you want to build a massive stamp collection. When you do this, two things happen. Second, this confidence brings new and interesting people into your life. Being alone can be beautiful, but if you want to add people to your life, finding a purpose for your existence is the fastest way to do it. Get used to doing things alone that society says is made for two. Go to a movie by yourself and enjoy the picture.

Have a great dinner out all by yourself. Take yourself on dates, and learn to treat yourself well. This will be awkward at first. Accept it. When you work on a team, the pressure to conform is great. You always have to think about the others in your group and regularly make compromises so that the end result is acceptable to everyone. Leave your email address with us for exclusive content in our fortnightly newsletter.

How good to find a kindred spirit. Really enjoyed ready this article, so many points hit the nail on the head. Thank you anyway for the nice wee read x. Your email address will not be published. We need our friends and family more than you know — and it really matters when you cancel on us!

We probably think that you should try living alone for a while, too. Donate Want more insider secrets about the lives of people who live alone? Here are 4 ways to comfort your inner Bridget Jones February 10, Chris topher July 11, at pm Reply.

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